Net Dating Secrets

First Steps

darren — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 08:21:47 +0000

Doing things on the internet, is simple really, logon put in a search term/address and of you go. It might be tempting to go straight to a singles chatroom and try to find somebody who would interest you.

But STOP, chat rooms by there anonymity attract people who are not as they seem and don’t have the same honorable intentions as you. As you start asking questions, answering their questions you will start to get back the answers that you want to hear! After time it will get very frustrating, everything starts of well, you are having a nice conversation with a person and warming up when all of the sudden, the topic moves towards sex. You let out a sigh and either have to bar messages from that person and risk the person bad mouthing you in a public chat room. Usually you have to leave the chat room all together.
In other words, it is the easiest thing to get someone to sleep with you but if you are looking for something more enduring, like a partner for life, then you are going to have to be a little more patient. The pick of the litter is not easy to find. But you do find it; it is going to be worth the effort.
So instead of going into a singles’ chat room, what you could do is, you could try the whole thing out from a different angle. You could try working backwards.

Sit for a minute or two and try and think about the things that interest you and things that you would find interesting in a person.

By ‘things’ over here I am not referring to physical attributes. I am not referring to something that might interest you in a person’s physical appearance. Again the distinction has to be drawn between a serious relationship and a casual relationship. In a casual relationship, the importance is always for the physical attributes. We are more concerned with what the person looks like and what the person has been endowed with.

On the other hand, if we have a serious relationship, then the physical qualities are not so important. Compatibility is probably the most important factor over here. Along with that there are certain qualities that obviously we will be looking out for. We are talking about qualities of the mind. After all, beauty is only skin deep!

Astrology again, but different

darren — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 08:21:29 +0000

Our past lives do they catch up with us, do they control our destiny in this live and in our ultimate destiny.

Karma Astrology could answer these questions and help you discover your souls journey.

Karma translated means action, and in Karma astrology it defines what happens to you in this life is a result of what you’ve done or what has been done to you in a previous life, whether benevolently or selfishly motivated, it eventually comes back to you. Could be this life or a life hundreds of years ago.

Karmic astrology uses the positions of the plants in your natal chart to explain the reasons why you are the way you are and why you act the way you do. Some might think I can’t change anything then! But Karmic astrology provides you with guidance to resolve past life situations so as to wipe slate clean and make room for more positive karma in your current life.

You might be asking yourselves what has this got to do with finding my ideal partner ?

The answer depends on how you view Astrology in general, if you feel that you want to get the best from your relationships and know that you have given your best, than knowing yourself fully is surely the key.

Astrology is a vast world, one full of cosmic influences, no one is totally isolated and there are strong powers a work out there.

Do you believe that everybody has there ideal soul mate out there and all you need to do is find them ?

I do and was lucky enough to find mine over 20 years ago, it was love at first sight but it does not mean that it’s been easy. But if we had had tools such has Karmic astrology we might have understood some of the more difficult times.

Nobody is totally isolated in the world, and I am not talking about the internet and cell phones, I am talking about the great cosmic web of which we are all part of and that controls our daily life’s.

Perhaps astrology of all sorts is part of the manual for leading a more confident, wiser and happier life.

Bless your beautiful hide

darren — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 09:34:00 +0000

Bless your beautiful hide
Wherever you may be
We haven’t met yet
But I’m willing to bet
That you’re the one for me!

And so goes the song from the Hollywood classic of yesteryear, ‘Seven Brides for Seven Brothers’ and this song is precisely what online dating is. Online dating is in, in, in! Gone are the days when mothers used to escort their daughters to ball room dances and help them choose partners from the boys.

That was something that passed into oblivion with the last century or even earlier than that. In those days single people met at parties and other social gatherings and had to choose partners judging just by outer appearances, a very superficial choice indeed! Nowadays thanks to the Internet, the outward appearance has become the last criterion for selection.

Why You Need To Know More...

But wait! Online dating is not all fun and games and there are a lot of things that a person has to know about Online dating before one gets into the intricacies of it. Online dating may seem to be the simplest thing in the world but it is not. It should be viewed in all earnestness or things could go hay wire. Every game has its rules and unless you know all the rules you just can’t become a good player and eventually a winner.

Tastes Differ

People! There are so many kinds around. Just look around you, how many people you know look the same? Sizes, builds, shapes, features, they are all so different. And that is just about the external appearances. And when it comes to character, it becomes a very different story altogether. Take a trip down memory lane, go back to your class rooms and take a look around.

A class room is one place where we get to interact with a lot of different people on a very close basis. We get to rub shoulders and corners with very different people and we get to know them on a one to one basis. So how many of your class mates did you genuinely like?

I don’t mean like them as class mates but as people. Was it easy to get along with all of them? That is why we often end up with best friends or clichés in class rooms.

We do not and do not have to like every body. The tastes and interests of one person might match with ours while the tastes and interests of another person may be at complete logger heads with ours.

So when it comes to dating, it is very much the same story. But over here there are some strings attached. Unlike in a class room contact, most people go on dates with a more impressive purpose, and that is to find life mate. There are a hundred and one things that should match before two people decide to spend the rest of their lives with each other.

Many people are of the opinion that they do not need any help with dating. They may be right because no body knows a person’s tastes and likes better than the person himself or herself.

Is it for me

darren — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 15:19:02 +0000

Talk of allure. Online dating, or internet dating, has attracted millions of people worldwide in just a few years of existence. What’s the magic or power behind the phenomenal pull?

If 40 million plus people are doing it, then something is right. So, what draws people to online dating in such vast numbers? Well, here are a few benefits and advantages of online dating over traditional dating:

1. Volume: Perhaps the foremost advantage is the almost limitless supply of people online, all with one common goal: to find a date. The huge numbers of available singles improve the odds of meeting the Mr. or Miss/Ms. Right. And, there are always fresh “supplies” as new people continue to join dating sites.

2. No guessing (in most cases) as to whether the other person is available or not, as they wouldn’t be on a dating site if they weren’t.

3. Wide net: Online dating offers you the opportunity contact multiple prospects at the same time. After exchanging emails and/or phone calls you can determine which if any is worth keeping. If none, just continue your search.

4. Online dating eliminates the awkwardness of first introductions. The first encounter is always the hardest for most people, and getting over it makes the rest of the dating experience much easier.

5. Speed: Online dating is designed towards a fast and efficient initial contact. Once the contact has been made, you can slow things slowed down to find out if you have a match.

6. Convenience: For people who are busy, prospecting online is the way to go. It is open 24/7 and you can also spend the amount of time that is convenient to you.

7. Privacy: You can exchange emails and/or phone calls until you are comfortable enough to reveal more, or to meet in person.

8. Web video chat and conferencing option allows you to see and talk to the other person, making it an almost personal interaction. Sorry, there’s not yet a way to touch or smell the other person through a modem.

9. You already know, to a reasonable degree, what your prospective date looks like as well as his/her age, height, education etc. Compare this to blind dating.

10. Low Cost: The cost of internet dating is far less than traditional dating which usually involves coffee outings, dinners, movies etc.

If you haven’t yet tried online dating, aka internet dating, you should at least give it a try. Most of the reputable dating sites offer free trials. Who knows, the right person could be waiting for you right now!