Net Dating Secrets

Do looks interest me?

darren — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 08:22:48 +0000

There are many people who insist on taking a look at the other person’s picture before actually committing to a date. They might have their reasons of course, but I, for one, feel that such a decision based largely on looks is more suitable for a casual relationship. It is bound to sizzle off after some time. A thing of beauty is thing of beauty. But we are humans and a little more complex and require other elements to stimulate us.

Looks are not the most important thing and should never be used as the deciding factor in a serious relationship.

A human being is more like a diamond, which when held against light reflects and deflects light so that a myriad of colors are seen. We’re complex.

We have a lot of interest and the interests of one person need not match with the interests of another. But thankfully the interests are not as numerous as human beings. So we are bound to find a lot of people who share our interests.

So, what are your interests? That is something for you to find out.

Your interests could be something like sports or outdoor activities. Or you could think of interests like social work or cross-words or religious interests. As we are complex beings are interests may be varied and wide, this is good thing, but you will need to narrow them down. You cannot be all things to all people. Stick with the main interests and the ones that you feel passionate about. Sport is an interest but what sport ?

Horses- Dressage or horse jumping. Car racing- Formula 1 or rally driving.

These are just 2 examples but they, you might like all things about horses but you probably have preference and that is were your passion will come from if you find someone with the same interest.
Once you find out your interests you will know more about yourself, and more about the person that you want to spend more time with.

Astrology again, but different

darren — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 08:21:29 +0000

Our past lives do they catch up with us, do they control our destiny in this live and in our ultimate destiny.

Karma Astrology could answer these questions and help you discover your souls journey.

Karma translated means action, and in Karma astrology it defines what happens to you in this life is a result of what you’ve done or what has been done to you in a previous life, whether benevolently or selfishly motivated, it eventually comes back to you. Could be this life or a life hundreds of years ago.

Karmic astrology uses the positions of the plants in your natal chart to explain the reasons why you are the way you are and why you act the way you do. Some might think I can’t change anything then! But Karmic astrology provides you with guidance to resolve past life situations so as to wipe slate clean and make room for more positive karma in your current life.

You might be asking yourselves what has this got to do with finding my ideal partner ?

The answer depends on how you view Astrology in general, if you feel that you want to get the best from your relationships and know that you have given your best, than knowing yourself fully is surely the key.

Astrology is a vast world, one full of cosmic influences, no one is totally isolated and there are strong powers a work out there.

Do you believe that everybody has there ideal soul mate out there and all you need to do is find them ?

I do and was lucky enough to find mine over 20 years ago, it was love at first sight but it does not mean that it’s been easy. But if we had had tools such has Karmic astrology we might have understood some of the more difficult times.

Nobody is totally isolated in the world, and I am not talking about the internet and cell phones, I am talking about the great cosmic web of which we are all part of and that controls our daily life’s.

Perhaps astrology of all sorts is part of the manual for leading a more confident, wiser and happier life.

Astrology and Dating

darren — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 10:38:30 +0000

Dating Astrology

How compatible are we with certain birth signs, there is a whole world of astrology hat can be used as a tool for relationships.
Planets can carry extra weight in relationships, the Sun shows us our true self, our courage and vitality.
Some astrologer use asteroids. The asteroid Juno relates to marriage, partnership, and empowerment. Ceres is a nurturing influence. Vesta is purposeful, passionate, and deals with protecting the home.

Plants are more commonly known for astrology and a few examples are given below.
Venus relates to love, affection, values, aesthetics and affinity, and shows which qualities must be present for you to love and be attracted to a person or situation, and where you’re most likely to find love.
The Moon symbolizes your needs for emotional security and acceptance, and shows where you’re likely to receive support and attention from others.
Mars shows action, passion, sexuality, initiative, taking a stand and willingness to fight.

Birthcharts are also used and show us how compatible we are with others, there will be some points of compatibility and some points of stress. A sign of stress is not necessary seen as negative thing it can be exciting, challenging, stimulating it can of course be antagonistic and worrying. The level of detail should not be that great when the couple first meet an overview of each persons plant yields basic information. Sometimes a friends bitrhtdate helps and gives an idea of the compatibility of a certain type of person.
Once the relationship becomes serious and marriage is on the horizon a more detailed reading could help with possible further conflicts that might arise and are totally un-foreseen at this stage. The more in-depth reading also helps for both parties to understand the relationship that they will enter into.

The reading will suggest the issues and these can be discussed and addressed. This stops things building up in the relationship and become areas of hurt that take a long time to be healed and worked out.

There are many aspects of astrology that can help in finding your ideal mate and/or strengthen existing relationships. But you do have to be a believer!

The Secret is Charm

darren — Mon, 16 Jul 2007 09:27:34 +0000

The Secret is Charm

All the things that have been said about how you can create a favorable impression. There is something that is equally or even more important than that, and that is to make the other person feel comfortable. Help the other person relax.

Any way you have been chatting for quite some time so you do know a great deal about each other. The best thing you can do is to ease the tension and break the ice. Sometimes the ice gets so thick that you can literally feel it. Break it up by cracking a joke or two.

But the joke should be spontaneous and in keeping with the situation or else it will fall flat. Do not rehearse a joke because a rehearsed joke sounds…well…rehearsed.

The key word here is charm. Use all the charm that you can muster. Try to be as considerate and as thoughtful as possible. Do not dominate the conversation but try to get the other person talking. People generally love to talk about themselves so try to get the other person talking by asking about the person’s work. Show interest in whatever the other person says.

Try to be a good conversationalist. A good conversationalist is not a person who talks well, but is one who listens well as well. So try to be a good listener. And while you are listening try not to get distracted by something else or the other person might feel that you are losing interest in what he or she is saying.

Then comes the question, “what do you do if you find that the other person is dominating the conversation?”

Well, in that case listen patiently for a minute or two and then give a subtle sign like a raised eyebrow or a smile through the corner of your mouth. If the other person is intelligent enough, he or she will get the cue. If not, then take your chance, you might have to listen to this person for the rest of your life.

Humor rarely fails. But again take care not to over do it. There is only one thing worse than a total lack of humor and that is too much humor.

Stress out of dating

darren — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 09:58:08 +0000

Lets face it, dating can be quite stressful, but it could and should be fun. The key to this is communicating. The magic could be there from the first time you meet, and become serious after the first couple of dates. In most cases the relationship develops gradually over time as the couple get to know each other and this is why it is key to use some communication tips to help you along.

Tip#1 The couple might have met through a dating agency, dating website or even a forum, so they must have found something of interest about each other to want to meet face to face.
There is of course the opportunity to see the other person in the flesh, so to speak but they need to find common ground with each other, such as a similar interest. The interest might be something previously highlighted by the dating agency and if so finding some information on the subject always helps the conversation flow nicely. Lets face it, we like people who are interested in what we are interested in.
You can always ask, what are you interested/hobbies, what do you do in your spare time. A list of things will follow, but the key is to listen carefully and find something you like or want to talk about. This way you are genuinely interested, and not trying to talk about something that does not interest you just to cover up any embarrassing silences.

Tip#2
No matter how serious a person is, chances are that person still likes to laugh at something. Humor is necessary in any dating scenario, because not only does it lighten what might be a stressful situation, but it also creates the opportunity for the couple to create private jokes between each other, which is a fun way of solidifying a relationship.

Tip#3
Keep the conversation light, you don’t have to get personal now you can wait until the relationship becomes more serious. Spilling your heart out will make you seem desperate. And could leaving you feeling you gave all but they didn’t respond, which will make future dates more daunting.

Tip#4 Body language conveys more about how we feel to another person than the words we speak. Sitting back arms folded,legs crossed shows that you are not interested, which also conveys that you are not an interesting person. Clearly leaning too close to someone invading there personal space to soon is also not a good way to start either. Things are easily done subconsciously and could give the wrong message to someone you are genuinely interested in.
So relax and be yourself, after all you are the person that they have chosen to be with at this time.

All of the above is to help and take the stress out of dating, remember it is meant to be a enjoyable experience !

Is it for me

darren — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 15:19:02 +0000

Talk of allure. Online dating, or internet dating, has attracted millions of people worldwide in just a few years of existence. What’s the magic or power behind the phenomenal pull?

If 40 million plus people are doing it, then something is right. So, what draws people to online dating in such vast numbers? Well, here are a few benefits and advantages of online dating over traditional dating:

1. Volume: Perhaps the foremost advantage is the almost limitless supply of people online, all with one common goal: to find a date. The huge numbers of available singles improve the odds of meeting the Mr. or Miss/Ms. Right. And, there are always fresh “supplies” as new people continue to join dating sites.

2. No guessing (in most cases) as to whether the other person is available or not, as they wouldn’t be on a dating site if they weren’t.

3. Wide net: Online dating offers you the opportunity contact multiple prospects at the same time. After exchanging emails and/or phone calls you can determine which if any is worth keeping. If none, just continue your search.

4. Online dating eliminates the awkwardness of first introductions. The first encounter is always the hardest for most people, and getting over it makes the rest of the dating experience much easier.

5. Speed: Online dating is designed towards a fast and efficient initial contact. Once the contact has been made, you can slow things slowed down to find out if you have a match.

6. Convenience: For people who are busy, prospecting online is the way to go. It is open 24/7 and you can also spend the amount of time that is convenient to you.

7. Privacy: You can exchange emails and/or phone calls until you are comfortable enough to reveal more, or to meet in person.

8. Web video chat and conferencing option allows you to see and talk to the other person, making it an almost personal interaction. Sorry, there’s not yet a way to touch or smell the other person through a modem.

9. You already know, to a reasonable degree, what your prospective date looks like as well as his/her age, height, education etc. Compare this to blind dating.

10. Low Cost: The cost of internet dating is far less than traditional dating which usually involves coffee outings, dinners, movies etc.

If you haven’t yet tried online dating, aka internet dating, you should at least give it a try. Most of the reputable dating sites offer free trials. Who knows, the right person could be waiting for you right now!