Net Dating Secrets

First Steps

darren — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 08:21:47 +0000

Doing things on the internet, is simple really, logon put in a search term/address and of you go. It might be tempting to go straight to a singles chatroom and try to find somebody who would interest you.

But STOP, chat rooms by there anonymity attract people who are not as they seem and don’t have the same honorable intentions as you. As you start asking questions, answering their questions you will start to get back the answers that you want to hear! After time it will get very frustrating, everything starts of well, you are having a nice conversation with a person and warming up when all of the sudden, the topic moves towards sex. You let out a sigh and either have to bar messages from that person and risk the person bad mouthing you in a public chat room. Usually you have to leave the chat room all together.
In other words, it is the easiest thing to get someone to sleep with you but if you are looking for something more enduring, like a partner for life, then you are going to have to be a little more patient. The pick of the litter is not easy to find. But you do find it; it is going to be worth the effort.
So instead of going into a singles’ chat room, what you could do is, you could try the whole thing out from a different angle. You could try working backwards.

Sit for a minute or two and try and think about the things that interest you and things that you would find interesting in a person.

By ‘things’ over here I am not referring to physical attributes. I am not referring to something that might interest you in a person’s physical appearance. Again the distinction has to be drawn between a serious relationship and a casual relationship. In a casual relationship, the importance is always for the physical attributes. We are more concerned with what the person looks like and what the person has been endowed with.

On the other hand, if we have a serious relationship, then the physical qualities are not so important. Compatibility is probably the most important factor over here. Along with that there are certain qualities that obviously we will be looking out for. We are talking about qualities of the mind. After all, beauty is only skin deep!

Online dating bringing the world together

darren — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 08:42:28 +0000

For thousands of years human beings have been chasing partners.

There are many cultures across the world and they all choose partners differently. However online dating is bringing cultures and societies closer.

Yes there are of course still language barriers but if you scan through the internet you will find commonalty on most sites, Happy smiling people from all over the globe.

At an instant in our own privacy we can specify gender, age group, locality, all at a click of a button. With no commitment and free of charge.And if we don’t like what the search provides, we can start again. All of this gives us a sense of belonging, feeling involved, part of a group of people all searching for the right partner.

I find searching over the internet on free membership site helps me understand what I am looking for at no cost. It’s a bit like test driving a car before buying, who walks into a car showroom and knows exactly what they want ? Don’t get me wrong there are people who know what they want from the start, and some sites help you more than other with refining your search. Check out the services they offer as well, a key element to enjoying your time with the site.

Do look through the free sites first, this will also help you decide what site is best for you with no commitment. And don’t stick to just English sites there are many cultures out there that could spice up your life and take you to some wonderful places around the world.

Happy surfing.

Stress out of dating

darren — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 09:58:08 +0000

Lets face it, dating can be quite stressful, but it could and should be fun. The key to this is communicating. The magic could be there from the first time you meet, and become serious after the first couple of dates. In most cases the relationship develops gradually over time as the couple get to know each other and this is why it is key to use some communication tips to help you along.

Tip#1                                                                                                                                                                                                                     The couple might have met through a dating agency, dating website or even a forum, so they must have found something of interest about each other to want to meet face to face.
There is of course the opportunity to see the other person in the flesh, so to speak but they need to find common ground with each other, such as a similar interest. The interest might be something previously highlighted by the dating agency and if so finding some information on the subject always helps the conversation flow nicely. Lets face it, we like people who are interested in what we are interested in.
You can always ask, what are you interested/hobbies, what do you do in your spare time. A list of things will follow, but the key is to listen carefully and find something you like or want to talk about. This way you are genuinely interested, and not trying to talk about something that does not interest you just to cover up any embarrassing silences.

  Tip#2
   No matter how serious a person is, chances are that person still likes to laugh at something. Humor is necessary in any dating scenario, because not only does it lighten what might be a stressful situation, but it also creates the opportunity for the couple to create private jokes between each other, which is a fun way of solidifying a relationship.

Tip#3
Keep the conversation light, you don’t have to get personal now you can wait until the relationship becomes more serious. Spilling your heart out will make you seem desperate. And could leaving you feeling you gave all but they didn’t respond, which will make future dates more daunting.

Tip#4                                                                                                                                                                                                            Body language conveys more about how we feel to another person than the words we speak. Sitting back arms folded,legs crossed shows that you are not interested, which also conveys that you are not an interesting person. Clearly leaning too close to someone invading there personal space to soon is also not a good way to start either. Things are easily done subconsciously and could give the wrong message to someone you are genuinely interested in.
So relax and be yourself, after all you are the person that they have chosen to be with at this time.

All of the above is to help and take the stress out of dating, remember it is meant to be a enjoyable experience !




Is it for me

darren — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 15:19:02 +0000

Talk of allure. Online dating, or internet dating, has attracted millions of people worldwide in just a few years of existence. What’s the magic or power behind the phenomenal pull?

If 40 million plus people are doing it, then something is right. So, what draws people to online dating in such vast numbers? Well, here are a few benefits and advantages of online dating over traditional dating:

1. Volume: Perhaps the foremost advantage is the almost limitless supply of people online, all with one common goal: to find a date. The huge numbers of available singles improve the odds of meeting the Mr. or Miss/Ms. Right. And, there are always fresh “supplies” as new people continue to join dating sites.

2. No guessing (in most cases) as to whether the other person is available or not, as they wouldn’t be on a dating site if they weren’t.

3. Wide net: Online dating offers you the opportunity contact multiple prospects at the same time. After exchanging emails and/or phone calls you can determine which if any is worth keeping. If none, just continue your search.

4. Online dating eliminates the awkwardness of first introductions. The first encounter is always the hardest for most people, and getting over it makes the rest of the dating experience much easier.

5. Speed: Online dating is designed towards a fast and efficient initial contact. Once the contact has been made, you can slow things slowed down to find out if you have a match.

6. Convenience: For people who are busy, prospecting online is the way to go. It is open 24/7 and you can also spend the amount of time that is convenient to you.

7. Privacy: You can exchange emails and/or phone calls until you are comfortable enough to reveal more, or to meet in person.

8. Web video chat and conferencing option allows you to see and talk to the other person, making it an almost personal interaction. Sorry, there’s not yet a way to touch or smell the other person through a modem.

9. You already know, to a reasonable degree, what your prospective date looks like as well as his/her age, height, education etc. Compare this to blind dating.

10. Low Cost: The cost of internet dating is far less than traditional dating which usually involves coffee outings, dinners, movies etc.

If you haven’t yet tried online dating, aka internet dating, you should at least give it a try. Most of the reputable dating sites offer free trials. Who knows, the right person could be waiting for you right now!