Lets face it, dating can be quite stressful, but it could and should be fun. The key to this is communicating. The magic could be there from the first time you meet, and become serious after the first couple of dates. In most cases the relationship develops gradually over time as the couple get to know each other and this is why it is key to use some communication tips to help you along.
Tip#1 The couple might have met through a dating agency, dating website or even a forum, so they must have found something of interest about each other to want to meet face to face.
There is of course the opportunity to see the other person in the flesh, so to speak but they need to find common ground with each other, such as a similar interest. The interest might be something previously highlighted by the dating agency and if so finding some information on the subject always helps the conversation flow nicely. Lets face it, we like people who are interested in what we are interested in.
You can always ask, what are you interested/hobbies, what do you do in your spare time. A list of things will follow, but the key is to listen carefully and find something you like or want to talk about. This way you are genuinely interested, and not trying to talk about something that does not interest you just to cover up any embarrassing silences.
Tip#2
No matter how serious a person is, chances are that person still likes to laugh at something. Humor is necessary in any dating scenario, because not only does it lighten what might be a stressful situation, but it also creates the opportunity for the couple to create private jokes between each other, which is a fun way of solidifying a relationship.
Tip#3
Keep the conversation light, you don’t have to get personal now you can wait until the relationship becomes more serious. Spilling your heart out will make you seem desperate. And could leaving you feeling you gave all but they didn’t respond, which will make future dates more daunting.
Tip#4 Body language conveys more about how we feel to another person than the words we speak. Sitting back arms folded,legs crossed shows that you are not interested, which also conveys that you are not an interesting person. Clearly leaning too close to someone invading there personal space to soon is also not a good way to start either. Things are easily done subconsciously and could give the wrong message to someone you are genuinely interested in.
So relax and be yourself, after all you are the person that they have chosen to be with at this time.
All of the above is to help and take the stress out of dating, remember it is meant to be a enjoyable experience !
